Resisting Argument

If we allow people to argue, they will.  They are well practiced in it, and have been rehearsing it for years in some cases.  They are determined to resist and are invested in denying whatever you might want to offer.  Whatever it is, it has probably been offered and resisted or argued away before.  As long as there is arguing, the treatment cannot begin.  Our role is not to refute, nor is it too helpful to point out lapses in logic.  We can accept them.  It does not imply agreement, if that was our fear.  It simply means that we are together and willing to share something.  Unlike with argument, we are not saying there must be a winner and a loser.