Thursday, January 28, 2016

Mistaken Needs

People are saying "have to have" and "need to do" about some very silly things.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Holding Tightly

Holding tightly may be more indicative of insecurity than of possession.

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

A Step Beyond Life

The dying to self is not what we do in order to come alive to or as someone else. As the dying to self of death, there is a willingness to set aside the assurance and predictability of the self in favor of the collective awareness of contemplation. It is not dying in the sense of losing or abandoning, and it has none of the despair the living associate with death. It is instead a hope-filled step beyond life as it is, and a settling out of being. It is what makes death transition, but not into a different existence, but instead to a transformation of what we would cling to had we less faith. There is no need to cling to life since that would be embracing incompleteness in fear of fulfillment.

Monday, January 25, 2016

Setting Aside the Self

The more we can set aside the more likely are we to approach what is essential, and the more personal elements we surrender the more can we recognize the universal, realizing that surrender of self to it is not a sacrifice after all; but to do so requires a capacity for trust that may seem beyond us. It is hard to accept but it is only more of the paradox: as we have less need to be self, the more can we find the presence of the universal where the selfness had formerly been.

Sunday, January 24, 2016

Beyond Yours and Mine

Unless they can go beyond "yours" and "mine," there will be no "ours."

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Friday, January 22, 2016

My Madness

I am used to visiting in wellness where things are resolved or capable of resolution but I then return to the madness of my own world pretending (though not calling it such) that the madness makes more sense, when all it is, is familiar.

Thursday, January 21, 2016

More Faithful to Fear

I have been more protective of the moment, more intent upon not disrupting it, and so have been less faithful to the future, keeping it instead at a distance and postponing its becoming present time. Betsy thinks, and rightly so, there is no need to wait and worry about its impact (which in the fantasy is always negative and so needing more to be deferred). She think things are done by doing them, that they then have an opportunity to work out and be adjusted to. They can then prove themselves undeserving of all that fear.

I believe she is right and that she has been, but I am more faithful still to the fear. Hope and trust are not as available as I might wish. I am faithful also to the sadness, perhaps because it has been so long with me. It is no longer what I sometimes have, having become over time who I am. While good things happen I do not trust them, as I do not trust moments of happiness. They are not as familiar or as reliable as the darkness has become.

That has, I think, always been with me. It is confirmed, rather than created, in sadnesses that now occur. In the darkness there is familiarity, but it is the satisfaction death might offer with its finality. There is no ready inclination to go beyond it and making it such a final or absolute state (one of essence rather than what sometimes occurs) has limited consideration of more hopeful options.

I have been again dragged to a point where I can accept goodness  and begin trying to trust. It is no one else's choice and until I do I stand in the way of others who may go around me, but only with difficulty. I wish sometimes they would go around my sadness and go on seeking what I do not see, but I would miss them too. I want them to be free, but not so free that they leave me. I want to them to take me along, but to also leave me where I am. I wish they could thrive, but I expect it to show also how low I have fallen. I would like to say, "Go away, and go with the happiness that belongs in your hearts. Go, and don't look back, but I want them where I can still see them too."

I would be as pleased if I could avoid this choice and could settle into this partial life that is more familiar, but this is not as simply done as it had been and I know I can no longer put the choice outside myself. I either trust or allow another aspect to die. I wish I were less fearful but to be so I would have to act in a courageous way. I would have to do what I can to encourage hope and trust growing in lives other than my own, but that is the easier part. It is me who is the reluctant disciple of trust. I can show other people where freedom lies and I can even look out in that direction, but going there, doing rather than just thinking about it, is unfamiliar ground.

To say I am stuck, to say I feel trapped sometimes in this darkness, to find reasons to support doing nothing (or nothing just yet) is to avoid rather than postpone wellness and the prospect of being happy. I know that as I know other facts. How I acquired this debt to pain and how I determine sadness was so essential I am not sure, but even though they have been present or hovering as far back as I can remember, I still have choices.

I would be O.K. to go beyond the resolve, to think of life as more an answer than dying might seem, but it does call for more action than thought, for doing rather than deciding to do, and instead of writing it asks that I stand up and try hoping and trusting no matter how risky they seem. What is actually at risk is not so great compared to what instead might be attained. Stop waiting to be free.

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Complete Life

Life may become more extensive but it is at any point already complete.

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Exposing the Problem

What you saw on television was the exposing of the problem, not its resolution.

Monday, January 18, 2016

Opposite of Intensity

Spirituality is a difficult concept because it is the opposite of intensity.

Sunday, January 17, 2016

Planning to Remember

I was planning to remember something. It seemed that important. I instead forgot, which suggests how really important it was.

Saturday, January 16, 2016

Let Life Happen

Life would be easier were we less afraid and were we less inclined to pretend control over it. If we could let it happen rather than trying so hard to make it happen, it would be more easily lived.

Friday, January 15, 2016

No Promises

He blames life for not keeping its promises, when perhaps it made none.

Thursday, January 14, 2016

The Asking of Prayer

The more specific our request the less likely is it to be realized, which is why asking that God's will be done is the essential prayer of asking.