Less Free

We are less free the more freedom we seem to have. We can equate time and options with freedom and the more of either we have the more free we may think ourselves, though the need to fill the time and respond to the options intrudes rather than liberates.

No Destination

Without a destination we have already arrived. With no place to be we are already where we need to be.

Writing to Control

Steve was talking of a particular pathology and noted they write in order to gain a semblance of control. I do not have the pathology he was speaking of, but maybe the rest was true -- we write as a way of appearing in control, which is not terrible as long as we know at best we have an appearance.

Destinations

When there is no destination you need only be where you are. It is sometimes easier to have a destination. That way, if the moment becomes uncomfortable we can rush over to the new location.

Rehearsing

If we rehearse, we undo.

Sharing Experiences

The less we bring (the less rehearsed or determined we are to offer something specific) the more can we take from the experience since it enables the other person to share. Expertise intrudes upon the process.

The Value of Education

The value of education is not in the questions it answers, but in those it raises.

Hearts or Minds

Whether we keep things in our hearts or in our minds is probably important.

Trust at Stake

Failures of trust occur only when there are significant things at stake. It is easy to trust where the outcome has not personal significance. It is easy to trust when those closest to us are not at risk.

Flying School

All I remember from flying school is Bruce saying, "fly the airplane." That's when anything happens -- when you are looking for a place to land, trying to restart the engine or putting out a fire, you continue to fly. Life is not so very different.

Up to Date

I have no interest in being up to date. I do not want to dress in current fashion, take an interest in popular culture, listen to music less than thirty years old, have conversations with most born after the Kennedy years (except some children). I do not want to hear new ideas that are not new at all or see art that strikes me as foolish. No pictures needed to be rated 'R' are of interest, and most are rated 'PG.' Nor will I wear my hair as today's people do. I want no stylists as long as I can find a barber. I do not want to live or work in anything made mostly of concrete, or where the windows will not open. I am not willing to spend half as much for a car as I did for my home, but  otherwise (with a few additional conditions) I am generally tolerant of the day.

Secret

They came running to hear the secret and were annoyed to learn there was none.

Powerlessness

As we acknowledge our powerlessness, we are grabbing for control.

Starring Role

He plays what he thinks is a starring role when in truth it is nothing of the sort. As long as he does not know it is a spear carriers' part he can play it quite well. Not all truths make us free.

Believing in Love

Even knowing it is not so we can believe we are so loved as we wish we were.